failure

has anyone asked themselves if they have failed before? definition of failure is an act of proving unsuccessful. and not when, the process didn;t come out as WELL as expected, or slightly less than perfection but still proven to work out. unsuccessful is when it did not work out at all totally. its actually a clear line which people often distorts it very badly. due to high expectation at times, certain level of success is deemed as a failure. however, in reality its really a success just that because it was not perfect, or there were slight hiccups, people will condemn it as a failure.

reflect upon the past and see if there was any instances in life defining moments when you have failed. if there was, then what did you do to pick yourself up. what corrective measures did you enforce so as to prevent the act to becoming another failure. sure it was painful to go thru it. but failure can either make you, or break you. depending on how you want the failure to affect your life.

make you in the sense, makes you stronger. knowing that you have failed and you have learn that something needs to be done and the problem needs to be solved. hence you;ll work out something that will improve the situation and avoid failure.

break you in the sense, failure has destroyed your fighting spirit, and then you give up. leaving the problem unsolved and nothing was done.

failure in certain sense does make you wake and shake you up abit to make you realise that life was never a bed of roses. however, you;ll never get to experienced it till you feel it. hearing from experiences is never good enough because thats simply a 2nd hand experience to start with. you never felt it yourself to know how it feels. its just the same as you;ll never know the kettle is hot till you touch it.

hence, after everything that was discussed, if you have never failed before. then its time to fail at one point of time and learn how to deal with it positively. and how you can pick yourself up and move on. keep on moving.

in all,

1. if it works out in the end, it was never a failure. it is a success. its just a less sweeter tasting success. stop harping on your high expectation and attempt to lump everything that doesn;t go your way as a failure.

2. if it never worked out in the end, do a reflection. find out the root cause of the problem. remember, the problem has to be solved. actions must be taken.

3. learning how to fail, is something which can;t be taught to you. you got fall to pick yourself up. anyway, you have to fall to pick yourself up anyway. there is no way you can learn to pick yourself up if you never fell...

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difference

looking all around, wondering if people knew what they were doing. do they know the reason why they are doing it? for interests? for money? or is it because someone told them to do it. or is it the pressure of the society, the uncontrollable urge to do what everyone else is doing? questions and questions without any answers makes everything look stupid. what is the point of asking if no one is going to answer the questions. the only person who can answer this questions is oneself.

if one can;t answer this questions, then question your objective on this planet. life is a gift, and its not to be wasted. if everything that you are doing doesn;t make you happy, then why on earth are you doing it? however, this only applies to long term effects. if you know you are going to be happy eventually but you have to go thru the unhappy process, then it is another situation all together. however, if you can foresee that in the long run, you won;t be happy, then really you got to go back to the drawing board to find out why. if you cannot forsee whats going to happen in the future, pls create a drawing board so that you can start to reflect and plan.

living your life in a daze is wrong. do not waste the gift that is bestowed to you. ask yourself, are you going to make any difference to others? at least make a difference to yourself. this makes the gift worthwhile. making the difference.

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jack of all trades

Coconut trees in a tropical country against a blue sky background. Coconut trees are extremely useful with literally a 1001 uses. something which the society demands from her people. no wonder a tree like the coconut, take ages to grow.

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airplanes

All aboard Western Pacific Airline



Amazing Thailand.



Coming soon to Paya Labar Airbase this week.








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back to the society

we are generally ribbed with being whiners who complain a lot, but do nothing to attempt to escape our predicament. in contrast to those who have no choice, but looking on the brighter side of their lack of choice as still a form of means to achieving their goals.

Do you dare go down the road less travelled, or would you prefer to give up your aspirations for the well trodden path, or blindly follow the sole collection of material wealth to keep up with the Joneses?

what do you think?

Epilogue

it really frustrates people when you tried to explain matters but people not only they don;t listen, they accuse you of not explaining. doesn;t sound logical does it? but its a doggy dog world out there and people will go all the way out to save their own ass. and will do anything even if it means sacrificing anyone to save their own face and image.

most of the time, complication occurs because there is usually a misunderstanding somewhere and when that happens, the common reaction is to point fingers at others. and accusing people of things they don;t intend to do, does not solve any problems. venting anger on others will make one feel better only for a while and only for that period of time. taking revenge on others does not show you how much superior you are, it only shows that you don;t have respect for others and yourself. jumping to conclusions will only irritate others and still doesn;t solve the problem.

take time out, sort things out peacefully and calmly. no need to rush into blaming people, because it only makes one very angry. it is indeed sabotage to wash dirty linen in public unless you totally dislike the person and want to get back to the person. not that it is wrong, but one will be more respected if you clarified matters privately. unless you feel that one should be shamed in public because you feel the person deserved it totally.

however, this society is filled with people who just loves to play punk with others. and it is not wrong, it is just simply another way of doing things. you just lose the respect of others, thats all.

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The journal

the amazing journey of military life has come to an end. from humble beginings from a recruit to a private. was a tough life as a trainee. had to train under the burning hot suns and the windy cold nights. braving all the elements and surviving through every single one of them. spending 5 months on an island is no means an easy task. being so near yet so far from home makes one go crazy. before promotion to corporal, was transfered to a cadet and it was a huge transformation.

demands of a cadet was high and it resulted in a lot of sacrifices. life was tough but with a huge learning curve. fruits of labour for a cadet was sweet. and the sweetness lingers on forever, because you have found friends through the process.

after earning the authority, the price to pay for the authority is responsibility. something which nobody taught you how to handle till you have it on your shoulders. and it was heavy. not only do you have to answer for your own actions but you also got to answer for those working directly under you. you;ll realised the importance of working together as a team and the pain of working for. you also learn how to survive by any means necessary. but nevertheless, you still found the friends worth working with. which makes everything nothing but worthwhile.

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Advasary

"You are my advasary, but you are not my enemy. For your resistance gives me strength, your will gives me courage, your spirit ennobles me. Though I aim to defeat you, should I succeed, I will not humiliate you. Instead, I will honour you. For without you, I am a lesser man."