Away

Its important to treasure your loved ones around you. you;ll never know when they will not be around anymore. many a times, people take others for granted and thats when suddenly they are not around then they will feel very regretful that they never spend enough time with them and stuffs like that.

its hard to treasure every single one 24/7. because all is human. but i believe that as long as you did show care and concern and think about them once in a while. you did spend quality time that both will remember and that it will last till the end. thats the best.

but never ever bear grudges, because you;ll eventually regret it with time. conflicts may occur, but remember to resolve them. don;t leave the grudge hanging and waiting for the other party to give in. because sometimes, they will never have a chance to give in.

love, value it. smile, keep it.

In loving memory. My deepest condolances to you, my bestest buddy.

The reason

the reason for this journal is not only for reflection, but reflections on the reflection.

that means to read thru what was written at different times of the year and to reflect whether or not it made sense at the current time of the year. and also to reflect whether you are still on the right track or still veering off course.

thats the reason for this journal. and not to write for fun and leave it forgotten. thats not why i kept this for the past months.

what do you think?

Mirrior Part 3

everyone is human, and everyone does makes mistakes. however, sometimes there is really no room for mistakes in this unforgiving society. people would say, please give chance to prove their worth. the only time for you to prove your worth is the time before you make any serious mistakes. anything after that is almost considered as efforts in vain because you are already permermantly labelled after any mistake that you have committed.

of course there are nice people in this society who gives chances to people who makes mistakes. however, these people are really nice people. otherwise, normal people normally won;t give chances after the first mistake is committed. anything less than perfect is bad.

in order to have a good impression is to impress at first sight, suck up at first sight. once you have made the impact of impressing, no matter what mistakes you have made would be negligible. because after impressing, you also are permermantly labelled.

what do you think?

My final bow

Everything that i have done went up in smoke.

i didn;t expect 10 months of work to end up this way.

it left me utterly disappointed.

Mirrior Part 2

time to go. after many months of tiring support, you look back on what you have done. though it is true that there are many mistakes made, many miscommunication errors. but you;ll realise that they are all learning experiences. many are painful. frustrating. and some even unnecessary. but whatever it was, there was a learning point in each of every of them.

you learn how to manage the workload. you learn how to coordinate perfectly and you learn how to work with people, with a firm yet diplomatic manner. the last thing you want to do is to burn bridges with the people you are working with and you also need to maintain good working relationship with the people you are working for. many a times, desperate calls for desperate measures. and there times when you have to resort to underhand means to achieve or to accomplish your mission. it is a necessary evil and the risks must be taken for the bigger picture and for the success of the mission. never compromise integrity for personal gain because that is plain selfish. and people will question your moral values as a person.

working in the support core of the organisation, it is very important not to reveal your trade secret. because that is your authority over the entire organisation and never let others know what you have, because chances are people will try to exploit whatever resources you have. and you;ll eventually lose command and control over your resources. know your contacts well, because in event of an emergency, you;ll know where to seek for help. never try to handle the situation on your own, because most of the time, you cannot handle it alone. never fear of asking for help, have faith with the people working together with you. nobody wants to die together in a sinking ship. people would rather work together to save their ownself. note, work together to save their ownself.

help others, because you never know when you;ll need their help. and try to offer whatever help you can. because thats just a nice thing to do. help each other. however, do not try to be overly helpful, because you may end up bearing a responsibility that is not even yours to start with in the first place.

being a service orientated appointment, it becomes a joy to know that because of your support, they are able to carry out their mission without any much of a hassle. this is called the fruits of your labour. and it makes both side happy. this is called a win-win situation.

what do you think?

The final case

the sight of a dejected father waiting anxiously for the return of his son, only to realise that the wait was to be delayed by nearly a year. he waited from morning till afternoon. to sit in a very cold room, shivering to keep warm, to see the verdict of his son. and to witness a process which took no more than 45 mins, and to suffer the cold room for 4 hours.

the verdict took no more than 30 secs. all the 4 hours wait for bad news. and to hear him say his heartfelt thanks, and to see him leave the place alone. seeing the lonely figure, walking slowly away from the building and disappearing into the concrete jungles of high rise hdb flats. the scene of a dejected father.

he never saw his son at home for almost 6 years. and after being punish for his past mistakes, he was taken away immediately after coming out, and only to delay his freedom for almost a year. the son already suffered 10 strokes, plus the fact he has never been to his own home for almost 6 years. seems like a cruel way to torture the loving parents who have not yet given up on the son.

what do you think?

Mirrior Part 1

nine months have passed. nine months of a desk job. my reflections on it. too choose a desk job, you must make sure that the work that you want to do on that desk is something you want to do. do not do something that you don;t want to do. because when something happens especially if it is something bad, you are most likely to shoulder the responsibility. the question is are you prepared to shoulder that responsibility? of course, the amount of responsibility that you shoulder is also dependent on the pay that you receive. nevertheless, you cannot shrink away from the responsibility.

the people who work with you are also important factors which must be considered. of course, this is really by luck because you cannot really choose who you want to work with, but you can decide how good you want your working relationship with them to be. most of the jobs around are usually made up of the same philosopy. no man;s an island and you cannot work alone. teamwork is the key to alot of problems. if you want to fly solo, you must make sure you can handle it. because chances are usually you cannot handle it.

make friends with your colleagues. because, when the need arises, they will be helping you as a friend. if you just maintain a professional working relation, then don;t expect them to do anything more than they are paid to do. you;ll be lucky if you meet someone nice.

whenever you meet a problem, you got to ask. don;t expect help to fly down from the sky. and sometimes, you got to swallow some pride to ask someone. don;t try to be a hero and solve the problem. it would be good if you knew what to do and if you have handled the similiar problem before. but ask if you are unsure. at least, when the problem really cannot be solved, your conscience is clear because you knew you asked around and the more experienced people.

what do you think?